dynamic menu

hi,
i love the dynamic Kleo and BuddyPress login and register menus.
ie. if someone is logged in the “login” and “register” menus do not appear.

however i am using “GravityForms” – “user registration” add-on because i want as simple as possible registration similar to your “sweet date” (which i also own).

so basically i have “none” in BuddyPress settings for “registration page”.
for gravity forms registration i select a new page i created – page name and slug is “Join” (not register).
the word “Join” better suits the community.
Kleo’s “register” menu does not allow me to choose a page and seems to keep going to register page and hence i cannot get that nice dynamic feature.
if i create my own link i can get it to disappear and i’d rather NOT install another plugin.
if i choose the “Join” in BuddyPress settings it over rides Gravity Forms registration and uses the looooooooong BP registration.

i am out of ideas.
can you guide me accordingly please ?
how can i use your nice Kleo dynamic menu to register on my “Join” page and disappear when logged in ?

your kind assistance in this would be greatly appreciated.
i hope i have explained myself properly.

kind regards.